Couples Therapy

I believe relationships can survive difficult things when both people are willing to look honestly at the dynamic they have created together. Using the Gottman Method for couples therapy, I help couples improve communication, navigate conflict, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional connection. Therapy with me is active, direct, and deeply collaborative. Together, we work on communication skills, conflict resolution, emotional attunement, rebuilding intimacy, repair after arguments, and restoring the friendship and connection that support long-term relationships.

A lot of couples reach out to me when they feel stuck, exhausted, or hopeless about how things have been going between them. Often, couples will say they “aren’t communicating,” but I usually find that communication is happening all the time, it just hasn’t been feeling productive or effective. Conversations can quickly become tense, passive aggressive, or veer off topic in a way that feels frustrating for both partners. Sometimes the relationship can begin to feel exhausting, even when there is still so much love underneath it. My role as a couples therapist is not to take sides or determine who is right or wrong. I find it way more helpful and transformative to relationships to help break down what happened in arguments, engaging each partner in the process of listening to hear instead of listening to respond.

Many couples also reach out after experiencing infidelity. I have significant experience working with affair recovery and betrayal trauma, and approach this work from a place of curiosity rather than blame or shame. Affairs, while deeply painful, are also extremely common. In the aftermath of an affair or betrayal, I acknowledge the pain, anger, and devastation that can come with broken trust, while also approaching the partner who had the the affair with curiosity rather than judgment. I have seen many couples emerge from deep ruptures in trust with relationships that feel more honest, connected, and intimate than they did before the affair. That process is rarely easy, but is possible if both partners are willing to engage in accountability, openness, and patience. I sometimes refer to the rebuilt version of a couple’s post-infidelity relationship as “relationship/marriage 2.0.”

I’m committed to providing couples therapy in Los Angeles for partners who are navigating communication issues, trust repair, emotional disconnection, recurring conflict, betrayal trauma, and major relationship transitions. Reach out to me if you are looking for a couples counselor in California.

For more information about my approach, specialties, and how I can support your emotional wellness, visit my Psychology Today page.